Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Innocence

A funny thought came to my mind this morning on the way to work with my mom in the car. I reminisce back on my childhood days and a familiar incident came to my mind. (i don't even know how my mind can lead to there) and it was something quite unsolved and i wondered to myself at the same time; why haven't find out yet at all? I could just easily ask around now. =) I laughed to myself and so i said asked my mom..

Me: Ma, what do you call a woman who is not married?

Mom: You mean, in english ar?

Me: -_-" ya la. Is it a 'spinster'? Is that the term?

Mom: Ah, ya lor. But got difference wan, ah.. women who are above a certain age is called a spinster i think. Why ar?

Me: Coz hor, you know when i was young you used to buy all those english exercise books for me to do and practise. So, there was once exercise i remembered ya, that had all those terms for people who are not married or like the term to label someone whose husband has passed away- things like that la!

Mom: Ah then..

Me: So hor, there was one time i remember i was excited that i learned the new word-spinster. So one day, PS(My cousin's wife) came over to our house and i think i was about 10 years old at that time. So, she asked me about Aunty.A i think, and i was so excited to be able to use the new word so i told her "Ya! Aunty.A is not married! She is a spinster!"

Mom: (She started laughing)

Me: Then, PS told me i cannot call people a spinster, she said it was very rude of me to call someone that. But how would i know wor, i was excited to use the word because i learned it from an exercise book. It was educational to me! And she never told me why it was wrong. She just said i cannot use that word coz its rude and she said it should be a bachelor / bachelorette. But i was young, and i can only remember that i was just using a new word i learned ma! i was so innocence. So actually what is the word?

Mom: Oh.. if its a young girl then you call her a bachelor-girl la. If its older then its a spinster la.

Me: Oh ... (not satisfied because it didnt answer my query)

lol! Just a funny moment to share with you. =) I remember back then at that moment, i was wondering to myself "does it matter what if i label her as a Spinster?" (Of course not in such an adult way-lah!) Anyways, as a child i used to question alot. If someone tells me no, i'd ask why. Though i dont understand what made me not ask my cousin back why can't i say the word-Spinster. I noticed that this is the way of the world. There isn't really right or wrong at all. Just terms and labels we give to ourselves that makes it more complicated. And some of it are man made rules which makes ourselves even more frustrated when others dont follow. You hear some people say "You Must.." but if you track back down, who said it is a must? This is just something i do, i question, i am not trying to imply anything at all so don't get me wrong. This is just one example in my life. Just that my child-like innocence sometimes enables me to question and ponder about the way of the world. So basically, is it really wrong (or rude) to say the word- Spinster or is it us (people) who thinks it's wrong just because it doesn't sound nice at all?

But isn't a label, just a label? At the end, what matters is who we are inside, isn't it?

2 comments:

  1. "Mom: Oh.. if its a young girl then you call her a bachelor-girl la. If its older then its a spinster la. "

    die la. we're spinsters d la!!!

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  2. oi! u think i dont know who is this ar? hahahahha yes we might be.. spinsters. hahahahaha

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