Working in and out

To attempt not feeling hurt inwardly is to blame the outside.

To blame the outside, would also mean failing to work inwardly.

Failing to work inwardly would lead to feeling hurt within.

The answer would probably be, it is best to understand the context, the cause of the situation and the effects from what happened.

Work inward and outward. 

Let it go with forgiveness, and just be Love.